I recently celebrated a birthday. A big one – number 35.
I was kind scared. Don’t get me wrong – I feel enormously blessed to have lived 35 years – but it is a bit scary. Who would have thought I’d be grown up? I always thought that I would be 14 for life. Actually, I still feel like I’m 14 (until my back gets stiff and I feel like every dang year).
But I’m not. I’m 21 years passed 14. And I don’t feel it…but, really, what does 35 look like and feel like? What does 40 – my next milestone birthday – look and feel like?
I’m lucky. These 35 years aren’t really apparent in my face or body. I also didn’t mash myself up over the years with alcohol, smoking and living hard when I was younger. I don’t look 35 or, act 35 for that matter, so most people are shocked when I tell them how old I am.
Most of my friends are around my age and 35 today sure ain’t like 35 in my mom’s time. Back in the ’70s when my mother was 35, life was different. People were…how do I explain without being rude…old and mature. I saw a picture of a 39-year-old man in the 1970s and he looked so old. So fatherly. So mature.
Personally, I don’t look old. I don’t feel old.
Although, I don’t have any children yet, I’ll be a hot mom in my mid- to late-30s and definitely in my 40s and beyond. The women I know who are mothers are hot, fashionable and youthful.
So what does 35 look like? I guess, it looks like me: fun, fresh, strong, happy and young. I thought 25 was the height of my sexy, but I’m realizing that women do truly get better with age.
One of the young women that I volunteer with is 23 and just graduated from university. When we were talking and I was telling her about my experiences in the workforce, she said, “I want to be like you when I grow up!”
At first, I clutched my pearls… but I am a grown up compared to a 23-year-old and I’m good with that.
Readers, lurkers and others, what do you think? Are you approaching a milestone birthday? What does 30, 35 or 40 look like to you?