If I cursed, I would curse.
But since I don’t curse, I will just write a strongly-worded, yet short blog post.
We always wonder why young Black women have no self-esteem. We wonder why we bleach our skin and wear blond wigs and blue contact lenses. Why we are so damned scared to stop relaxing our hair, although we know that the chemicals are rendering many of us bald.
I believe the reason we hate ourselves in droves is because there is an agenda – a conspiracy – to make us hate ourselves. Case-in-point, Psychology Today’s article “Why Are Black Women Less Physically Attractive Than Other Women? Why black women, but not black men?”
Jesus be a shredder.
During the course of the last 12 months, I’ve seen and read a number of articles promoting the challenges of being a Black woman: we’re lonely, aggressive, unhealthy and uneducated. If you are from the States and have the misfortune of being a Black woman you’re more likely to abort your babies and you must be disease-ridden.
And after all of that, Psychology Today publishes an article that states that we’re the least attractive of all women. (Check it out here.)
All this time, Black people have been tearing each other down saying light is better than dark, straight is better than kinky, skinny is better than fat and it didn’t even matter. We were all unattractive anyway.
I thank God that I’m grown and have enough life experiences to tell me that is certainly not the case. I may not be a supermodel, but I’m damned hot and, more importantly, I am exactly who God intended me to be: a Black woman. But I am concerned for all the young girls who do not have the advantage of life to realize that this fool has written tripe and Psychology Today should be used to wipe my curvy, Black behind.
This article, as well all the others that denigrate us because we are Black women, deserves the ire of every Black woman who walks the earth. I am tired of being seen as woe begotten because I live in chocolate skin.
We have to speak up for ourselves. I’m happy that so many blogs and people on Twitter have spoken against this article. We need to fight this mess because our beautiful, young Black daughters and sons are exposed to this ignorance every day. I don’t want my goddaughters growing up believing this nonsense.
I’m done. I’m annoyed and I’m hungry. I’ve had to deal with rude telemarketers and I nearly scratched the new car. Just one more quick thought: think critically about what the media is trying to feed us. I believe there is an agenda to make us hate ourselves and it’s only going to get worse if we don’t put our feet down.
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My goodness. I’m shocked that Psychology Today would allow someone like him to publish on their site. The post has been pulled because of backlash, and another writer has pointed out all the faults in his “study” (after the blatant racism.) Further reading on the writer shows that he is constantly using flawed data and assumptions to prove racial stereotypes.
Reading that article took me right back to the readings we did in Black History class in uni, where white writers tried to use science to make it seem like Black people were less intelligent, and justify their treatment of them.
Society is geared to make people want to follow the icons and images that “they” want us to follow so “they” can make loads of money off the choices they give us to make. Be who you truly are and not what “they” want us to be. You are not your career, you are not your religion, you are not the skin on your body. We are spiritual beings having a human experience. WALK IN BEAUTY! 🙂
the forum you linked to actually had some clever and funny responses to the whole thing, and not the usual racist drivel. i’m very proud of them. it’s one time I didn’t read an open forum thread and want to shoot myself and bomb the rest of humanity.
I agree with JMB, I was happy to read the comments on this article. Intelligent peeps who can read crap when they see it. Great post, maybe we can discuss this more because I would like to know what black women think lead to this man having the audacity to write such an article. Who/What are giving indiduals like this these powers?