Since going natural, I’ve had many conversations about natural hair and it boggles my mind the number of women who vehemently say: “I could NEVER go natural!”
Ummm…. why not?
The answers normally are one of these:
- My hair is too hard/unmanageable/thick/dry/kinky
- It takes too much time
- My hair doesn’t look like yours/INSERT ACTRESS or SINGER (mind you, her hair doesn’t look like that, but I digress)
What I’ve noticed is that the majority of those people who swear up and down that they could never go natural never have — or it’s been so long they don’t realize that products have changed and there’s a wealth of information online.
Ladies, listen, you can’t tell what your hair will do by fighting with your roots when you need a perm — that’s not a true representation of your real hair texture. You also can’t tell what you hair is truly like by dashing mineral oil-laden products — that didn’t bother your relaxed hair — on your natural hair and then say, “my hair’s just dry and lawless. I need a perm.”
What I’ve learned is this:
- My hair — no matter how I try — will never look like INSERT ACTRESS/SINGER NAME, whether it’s relaxed or not. Many of us look a people in the media and admire their hair — which is fine, but sometime we want their hair. I enjoy Kenya Moore’s hair — it’s gorgeous and so is she, but that will never come out of my scalp… unless I shell out mad money for a good lacefront (not a $49.99 special at the local hair store — that’s not the business). All that is an illusion. My hair will only look like my hair and that’s the way it should be because that’s the way God wanted it to be.
- Healthy hair is key. Learn how to manage your hair — wash (not like how the women in the commercials do it… unless you want tangles), condition and moisturize. We have got to know what is in the products you put on your hair and how those products affect your hair’s growth.
- Don’t ever think you can’t go natural — that’s a lie. Black women are the only women in the world who don’t know what their natural texture feels like or looks like. And we don’t know how to care for our hair… our natural hair. Soft Sheen, African Pride and the rest of them have lied to us — there are other options. You like your hair straight? You can blow dry it out and flat iron. There isn’t a need for us to drop harsh chemicals in our hair. It’s just another opportunity for companies that don’t give a damn about us (and women in general — don’t get it twisted, none of these beauty companies care about women — they care about our money) to make money hand over fist by convincing the majority of sisters ACROSS THE GLOBE that there are no other options besides chemicals, which are causing a number of Black women to lose their hair.
God gave us free choice. I chose for a number of reasons to stop relaxing my hair. You can choose to relax your hair or not — it’s up to you. I think it’s extremely important for everyone to realize that there is a choice to be made — it not a fait accompli that you must relax/texturize/texlax your hair. You can NOT put chemicals in your hair and have hair that you’re proud of. You don’t have to have ‘soft hair’ or be mixed with anything to have glorious natural hair that’s versatile: straight, wavy, curly or kinky.
We’ve been bamboozled! We’ve been hoodwinked! We’ve been had! (I’m channeling Malcolm X here, LOL!) In all seriousness, we have been lied to and tricked into creating a multi-billion dollar hair care industry ($1.5 to 2 billion in the United States) that is making our hair fall out. I know some women with beautiful relaxed hair, but they are the exception to the rule.
I’m not judging anyone here, but these are your options: you can get with this or you can get with that. The choice is yours.